Whether you’re a veteran entrepreneur or officially starting your first business, motivation isn’t always there when you need it.
Trust me, as someone who suffers from depression, those days where you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders and the gaping sense of doubt occur more often than you think.
For me, staying motivated has been a massive task in the past. When you’re continuously faced with challenges and barriers, sometimes you feel like burning everything to the ground (figuratively of course) and walk away.
But I didn’t.
I, like many people, understand that staying motivated and continue to work towards your goals can sometimes be the difference between success and failure. After all, if you don’t stay motivated, how can you expect to achieve anything?
But I’m tired of gurus and their sycophants spouting verbal diarrhea that’s not practical, realistic or meaningful. When was the last time your behavior changed because of a motivational quote?
Yeah, I thought so.
Motivation is a complicated entity with a multitude of layers, concepts and theories. Similar to business, there’s no one rule or right way of doing things. However, it’s important to refine the process.
We often feel like we’re climbing Mt. Everest. When we experience this, our self-belief and expectations can diminish and subsequently our decisions to continue.
Now, self-belief is something that can appear cliché and it’s not about telling yourself to believe in everything that you do in the hope that it will come round eventually.
In truth, it’s more about demonstrating competence in your ability to perform given tasks that contribute towards your goals.
That means if you’re constantly looking at the end result, you’re going to overwhelm yourself and when your self-belief drops, so do your expectations of the final outcome.
We’re all familiar with setting short, medium and long-term goals and as many of us know, they don’t always go the way we want.
I’ve failed countless times or I’ve failed to meet expectations, but I’ve had to discover the difference between knowing when to quit and when to persevere through adversity.
Ultimately you need to reflect on the experiences, outcomes and process!
We are quick to make judgments, assumptions and form beliefs without evidence or justification, by simply listening to the voices in our head.
We try to put two and two together and end up with an answer other than four.
If you want to solidify your self-belief, manage expectations and turn your mountains into molehills you need to master reflective practice.
Here are some questions that you should ask yourself on a regular basis, particularly after a task, experience or event:
- What happened?
- What were you thinking and feeling?
- What was good and bad about the experience?
- What else can you make of the situation?
- What else could you have done?
- If it happened again what would you do?
If you can objectively answer these questions without emotional bias, or jumping to conclusions then you might see that your goals are more manageable than you think, and you’re more capable than you made yourself out to be.
In short, you’ll feel more confident in your abilities, and your expectations will be positive.
So next time you go into a state of panic when things don’t go to plan, grab a pen and paper, answer those questions and demonstrate that you’re lying to yourself without evidence.